To algorithm with love

February 10, 2017

Love is like jumping off a cliff!

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Why would I write that? Because I had this great photo from a trip to Whistler a few years ago that I wanted to use. Additionally, the first time you say “I love you” feels like the ground opens up in a scary & wonderful way. Right?

It’s February. It’s a month of pinks, reds, and hearts all over! What will my theme for Global TV The Morning Show be when I’m on February 17th? I’m calling it The Mathematics of Love with a nod to the book of the same name.

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The Mathematics of Love

The book was fascinating. So much so that I learned that some mathematicians created OKCUPID. So as research … yes I’m pretending I’m a scientist … I created a profile on OKCUPID. After a week I removed my profile. Man o man it’s a full time job going through all the stories and trying to decipher who could be my next date! Nevertheless, no more about me … unless you’re 6’ and … oh never mind!

The Mathematics of Love is a must-have for anyone who wants to better understand their love life as a mathematician pulls back the curtain and reveals the hidden patterns—from dating sites to divorce, sex to marriage—behind the rituals of love.

The roller coaster of romance is hard to quantify; defining how lovers might feel from a set of simple equations is impossible. However, that does not mean that mathematics isn’t a crucial tool for understanding love. Love, like most things in life, is full of patterns. In addition, mathematics is ultimately the study of patterns—from predicting the weather to the fluctuations of the stock market, the movement of planets or the growth of cities. These patterns twist, turn, warp, and evolve just as the rituals of love do.

In The Mathematics of Love, Dr. Hannah Fry takes the reader on a fascinating journey through the patterns that define our love lives, applying mathematical formulas to the most common yet complex questions pertaining to love: What’s the chance of finding love? What is the probability that it will last? How do online dating algorithms work, exactly? Can game theory help us decide whom to approach in a bar? At what point in your dating life should you settle down?

Watch her TED TALK because it is a well-known fact that mathematicians are excellent at finding love.

From evaluating the best strategies for online dating to defining the nebulous concept of beauty, Dr. Fry proves—with great insight, wit, and fun—that math is a surprisingly useful tool to negotiate the complicated, often baffling, sometimes infuriating, always interesting, mysteries of love.

Did I find love? Nah. I was never good at math.

So let’s try chemistry now which is another subject I also do not excel at.

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Love The Psychology of Attraction

This is a practical guide to successful dating and a happy relationship.

Okay. How? With easy and dynamic infographics that use the lessons of psychological research to help find a loving relationship. Sounds good.

The book starts with “Are you ready for love?” and examines the “scent of chemistry” and how smell works on our feelings. Then onto “The Search” including speed dating, chance encounters and personal ads. On to Dating, Establishing the Relationship and Together!

As I’m reading this book, I’m listening to CBC PODCAST PLAYLIST with one of my favourite morning men – Matt Galloway of CBC METRO MORNING and loving the valentine program (Feb 10) – I had tears in my eyes a few times.

Then keeping the radio on, I love the CBC & that doesn’t make me feel like a cliff walker, I found CBC RADIO ONE show NOW OR NEVER from the team who created another of my faves, DNTO.

Throughout the hour I listen to Lavanna, a 92 year old who is angry that her husband died and she has no one to talk to anymore. She writes an ad. She’s lonely. She’s get a call & “changes her pants and puts on some lipstick to go and meet someone new” because she says - ‘why not’. She “misses talking to someone”. At the end of the hour … it’s a good thing to put yourself out there … it’s an experience. I certainly feel the same way albeit I think I’m more selective than Lavanna as I’m lucky to have my son living with me so I do have someone wonderful to talk to. In future - perhaps I’m meeting new men in the mall like Lavanna.

I have to recommend @CBCNowOrNever @TrevorCBC & @IfyTweets to keep up with the show! #loveCBC

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Now let’s sit down and visualize yourself exploring the WORLD’S MOST ROMANTIC DESTINATIONS.

My passport is valid & my bag is packed! Who’s with me?!

National Geographic reveals 50 gloriously romantic vacations in this inspirational planner for weddings, honeymoons, anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, and other amorous special occasions. In The World’s Best Romantic Destinations, you’ll discover the most idyllic trips you could ever take, with expert tips on where to go, what to do, where to eat, and what to see in each unforgettable location. Filled with beautiful images of National Geographic’s most top-secret romantic spots across six continents, and top tips to experience them with the one you adore most, this collection is a travel-lovers dream. Flip through the pages to dream up a honeymoon walking through the temples of Bhutan, an anniversary trip to the white sand beaches of Mozambique, or a cozy night in an ice hotel in Sweden.

These pages highlight off-the-beaten path destinations—think the exotic jungles of Costa Rica, jade coves in Big Sur, and a desert Oasis in Israel—that will inspire a special getaway to celebrate a wedding, anniversary, engagement, babymoon—or simply just because you’re in love. No matter your flavor of travel, each and every destination inside this book will inspire you to cross a new place off your bucket lists.

Rest assured you don’t have to travel around the world to be romantic! There’s a chapter on ATLANTIC CANADA including lighthouses, puffins and other natural wonders on our east coast. Also a focus on QUEBEC CITY with suggestions to celebrate a winter wonderland. AND it includes an extraordinary and unique place that is on my bucket list - FOGO ISLAND INN!

So we’ve calculated our algorithms, tested our smell and we’ve gone on a romantic holiday - now it’s time for our perfect marriage!

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OUR PERFECT MARRIAGE is a journal for sweet nothings, romantic memories, and every fight you’ll ever have.

Work through your marriage problems, or at least laugh about them, with this tongue-in-cheek workbook created by newly married Twitter comedians: Alan & Claire @wefoughtabout

It’s part keepsake, part guided journal, part permanent record, and wholly a unique diary that will capture every magical and mundane moment of your matrimony.

From the poignant fill-in-the-blank prompts (The First Time You Missed Up) to soul-searching scrapbooking exercises (the Story of Us as Told by Receipts) – it’s a must for any lucky couple teetering on the threshold of married bliss.

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If you now need a novel to love rather than a person, may I suggest THE PIANO MAKER.

It’s a suspenseful, emotionally resonant, and utterly compelling story of what brings an enigmatic French woman to a small Canadian town in the 1930s, a woman who has found depths of strength in dark times and comes to discover sanctuary at last. For readers of The Imposter Bride, The Cellist of Sarajevo, Sarah’s Key by Tatiana de Rosnay, and The Red Violin.

Helene Giroux arrives alone in St. Homais on a winter day. She wears good city clothes and drives an elegant car, and everything she owns is in a small trunk in the back seat. In the local church she finds a fine old piano, a Molnar, and she knows just how fine it is, for her family had manufactured these pianos before the Great War. Then her mother’s death and war forces her to abandon her former life.

The story moves back and forth in time as Helene, settling into a simple life, playing the piano for church choir, recalls the extraordinary events that brought her to this place. They include the early loss of her soldier husband and the reappearance of an old suitor who rescues her and her daughter, when she is most desperate; the journeys that very few women of her time could even imagine, into the forests of Indochina in search of ancient treasures and finally, and fatefully, to the Canadian north. When the town policeman confronts her, past and present suddenly converge and she must face an episode that she had thought had been left behind forever.

Have you fallen over the cliff and in love with my book suggestions? Need a laugh? Take a look at how my proposal to Jeff turned out on The Morning Show.

Let me know what you think @jsquaredink


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